So the other day I was shopping (shocker, I know), and when I was in the dressing room going through my pile of stuff, I overheard two girls next to me talking. One of them comes out of the dressing room in an outfit she tried on I'm assuming, and the first thing her friend says is "that's so cute on you!" The next thing she replied with broke my heart a little. She said, "yeah, I love it on me, but I know my boyfriend won't like it so I'm not getting it". Now, I'm not one to eavesdrop, but when I overheard this I couldn't help but think to myself, W T F. I wanted to barge out and be like "umm, who cares what your boyfriend thinks, if you like it, you should wear it!" To avoid being that nosy and annoying person, I kept my mouth shut. But in hindsight, I almost wish I would have poked my head out and said something like 'yeah I agree, it's cute, you should get it.'
This whole exchange got me thinking about the clothes I pick myself. Who do I dress for? The answer is mostly myself. When I'm picking out outfits or looking at clothes, I notice I tend to gravitate towards anything floral or printed, feminine details like ruffles and lace, and I love a good chunky heel because it gives me the allusion of being tall without compromising comfort. I pick out stuff that I think is cute, makes me happy to look at, or just in general feel like is a work of art and I need it in my closet. That last statement may have been dramatic BUT I am a style/fashion blogger (LOL).
I definitely have had my moments in the past where I've only gotten outfits because I think it's what would be perceived as sexy (even if I didn't think so myself) or I think the guy I'm dating will like it on me...but that is really SO dumb. Because when you dress for anyone else but yourself, you're not being genuine and it comes off like you're trying too hard. I ended up hating those outfits I thought were someone else's idea of what looks good and never liked wearing them so I eventually threw them out anyways! When you wear what you like, you feel good and speaking from personal experience, your confidence shines through your outfit. And they say there's nothing more attractive that confidence, right?
If there's a dress that shows a little bit of cleavage, but I love the print or the cut, I will wear it regardless. If there's a pair of jeans that are high-waisted and resemble "mom jeans" and maybe not the most sexy but I love the way they look on me, I will wear it regardless. I think at the end of the day, personal style is all about dressing in what you and only you like because that is what is going to make you happy and as a result you will feel and look your best.